We have clear commandment given in Ephesians 5.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
This presents two sides of a wonderful coin. We think it is not wonderful anymore. We feel one side is tarnished and dirty. But the only dirt on it is what we have imagined through our own vanity, thinking that we know better than the Lord does.
What the Lord offers here is designed to fulfill and delight to the family. It is also his word, and should be obeyed for that reason alone. But do we really think our world of emasculated men who live singly in their parents homes until they are thirty is really so terrific as all that. Such is the natural fruit of emasculating men. Men want leadership. They are designed for it. Women want love. They want to be protected and provided for. Women sensitive to the Holy Ghost will find they are far more fulfilled by a husband who loves them even as Christ loved his church, than they are by a man they have distanced and emasculated so they can stand alone: tough, independent, and strong.
A strong independent feminist is far less happy than a true woman whose husband loves her even as Christ loved the church. But sadly, I do not believe I have ever been in a sacrament meeting where these verses have been read like they mean something.
Oh, I have heard the commandment to the men read. Sure. Quite a few times. But the commandment to the women. No. Never. Not once. We want to emasculate men and call the doctrine taught so plainly here heresy, even if it is also pure scripture. We think we can throw off one side of the coin and keep the other.
Let us be honest with ourselves.
Moses 4:21 And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, between thy seed and her seed; and he shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.
22 Unto the woman, I, the Lord God, said: I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception. In sorrow thou shalt bring forth children, and thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee.
23 And unto adam: I, the Lord God, said: Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the fruit of the tree of which I commanded thee, saying - Thou shalt not eat of it, cursed shall be the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life.
24 Thorns also, and thisttles shall it bring forth to thee, and thou shalt eat the herb of the field.
25 By the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, until thou shalt return unto the ground - for thou shalt surely die - for out of it wast thou taken: for dust though wast; and unto dust shalt thou return.
The Lord here gives Adam and Eve both a curse. Eve's is to have sorrow in her conception. Adam's is that the ground will be cursed. There is absolutely no question about who is to provide. The Lord's direction about the difficulties of providing food are directed to Adam. Adam is clearly not only to provide for himself, but to provide for both of them. God, father, speaks from his own mouth, and he says "thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee."
When the Father speaks, we must listen. We can throw around the name of the Savior with a lilting voice all we want and it all means nothing if, when the Father speaks, we think Christ excuses us from strictly obeying.
The husband should love his wife even as Christ loved the church, and gave himself for it.
And the wife should submit to her husband, even as the church submits to the Savior. He is set by God the Father himself to rule over his wife.
They are two sides of a coin of family joy and delight. They are also commandments.
And when we choke on God the Father's words on the matter as found in the Joseph Smith translation of the bible, we must know that it is not the Holy Ghost we are listening to.