Notes for my writing

This blog is made up of notes on the gospel as found in the only true and living church, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. This includes notes that are either excerpts from or ideas for books I either have in draft or may yet write.

Sunday, November 15, 2015

Oprah's counsel

I was musing the other day on an occurance that I think is mirrored in many other ways in our life. I remember that Oprah was quite popular among the sisters in our ward at some point growing up. Oprah has never been married, and has simply had a string of affairs in its place. She is horribly immoral. But the women loved her and put aside the scriptural counsel.

Mosiah 23:14 And also trust no one to be your teacher nor your minister, except he be a man of God, walking in his ways and keeping his commandments.

Put aside is hardly the word. To not listen to her counsel because of her morals was laughable.
Then, at some point, Oprah had an episode where she asked these women how many of them had been raped by their husbands. They had never heard of such a thing before, and rightly so. In marriage the wife gives her body to her husband. the husband covenants to receive her body and treat it as if it were part of his own body, to treat it as he would treat his own. The need to provide and protect is a part of that, but by no means the whole part. Oprah explained a doctrine that was very different. In her doctrine if the wife has sex when she didn't want to, that means she was "forced" into it. She taught that that whenever a woman had sex when she didn't feel like it that woman was being raped because she was being "forced" to. This was not about helping women who had really been raped. It was about changing the definition of rape in way that would transform marriages by making normal compromise into sexual deviance and abusive oppression on the man's part.

When I was at grad school there was a movement that a pregnancy was a parasite because it took nutrients from woman's body. This transformation of normal marriage life into abomination has the same feel to me as the marriage rape doctrine. If a woman doesn't laugh that off as ridiculous, it is liable to slip into her heart and create suspicion and subtle animosity in the marriage that never needed to afflict the couple.

After all, in the wife's mind her husband is suddenly put forth as potential sexual deviant with herself as the victim. In fact, she has been asked to think back and discover whether he really already is a rapist, and she already was the victim. 

But this would have been avoided if they had heeded Mosiah 23:14 instead of going after a silly woman laden with lusts for counsel and advice about life.

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